Greeting Norms

In Indonesian culture, people of the same gender usually greet each other by shaking hands. Some may bow after a handshake and place a hand over their heart. Women usually bow, instead of shaking hands. Common verbal greetings include Selamat pagi (Good Morning), Selamat siang (Good Day), Selamat sore (Good Afternoon), and Selamat malam (Good Evening).

Communication Styles

Generally, Indonesians are indirect communicators, preferring to be subtle in their verbal exchanges and paying more attention to body language and tone of voice. In fact, Indonesians speak in a soft tone when meeting strangers, as expressing anger, or speaking loudly may be seen as disrespectful. Indonesians are very polite and put a lot of effort into avoiding conflict and saving face. Because Indonesians do not want to upset others, they probably will not say ‘no’ bluntly, so it is important to try to read between the lines and ask questions clearly.

Personal Space and Touching

Indonesians usually stand at least at arm’s length from each other and allowing for personal space is a sign of respect. This distance may be shorter if they are among friends or family. Public displays of affection are not encouraged, and it is not very common to see people kissing, hugging, or touching in public. Nonetheless, among friends of the same sex there is some amount of touching during conversation.

Eye Contact and Gestures

Direct eye contact is expected among peers, but it should be avoided when speaking with those of higher status or older. Pointing with the index finger is considered rude, and the thumb should be used instead. In Indonesia, the right hand is the only hand you can use to eat with, as the left hand is considered unclean, because it is the hand used to clean yourself in the bathroom. Also, do not use it for waving, touching others or offering a gift. If you are a leftie, we may know the secret to why people keep staring at you weird.